So you've finally landed yourself a date and you have no idea where to go? She's SUPER HOT, isn't she? Wanna make sure you'll see her again? Read on!
First dates are the major "make-or-break" situation that will determine whether or not she will want to stick around. They decide the fate of the night as well as the fate of future dates. Your chemistry can be great for those first few minutes when you met them. It's been a while since you've seen her, so how do you keep the chemistry alive and interesting?
I'm sure you've already thought about dinner and a movie. I'm also twice as sure that you probably thought it was a terrific idea.
WRONG!
Here's why:
Here's why:
Your first date should be spent in conversation and creating a connection with her. Despite the little moments to spare in between bites and sipping on that fine wine you had in mind, most of the night will be spent in awkward moments. The silence throughout a movie at your local theater isn't your friend either. Unless you're gifted with charisma and your date is naturally chatty, don't bother hitting a restaurant or a movie theater.
Most first dates go awry when there's a lack of genuine connection. Girls usually go home feeling creeped out by the fact that you were willing to bend over backwards (or bend her over your bed) before you even got to know her. She needs to know that she's comfortable being around you. She needs to feel a connection between you and her. She needs to feel understood and appreciated for her qualities and not just her looks.
So, where do you go? What are you going to do?
A great place to start would be a meeting location. Make it light, easy and no pressure on her. Consider meeting in an area filled with a variety of options like a shopping district, a boardwalk or a street festival. You want to select a location with many venues to bounce to in between.
Once out and about, allow yourself a few minutes to screen your date for what she likes and what she's into. Talk to her. Ask her if she heard that annoying song on the radio that everyone loves. Is she brave enough to eat sushi? Give her compliments, only when she deserves them and not because she's hot. This will give you some time to breathe and find genuine common interests with her without propping her up for an awkward interview session. Tell her some interesting stories while drifting from one venue to the next. If she looks bored or uninterested, move her to another venue. Perhaps a different store or area. Use the opportunity of changing venues as a way to keep things moving. You can avoid awkward silence, unusual moments and boring places by having plenty of venue options. Move onto a toy store. Go rent a pair of bikes on the boardwalk and race each other. Check out the ice rink you saw and go skating!
Your first date can last anywhere from three to five hours long. The more places you go to, the more you two will experience. The more you experience, the more memorable you'll become in her mind. When she goes home later and chat away with her girlfriends, she won't be talking about how boring you were. She won't be talking about the awful restaurant you picked out or about the movie you saw. She's going to talk about the incredible time she had with you and the endless number of things you two did together.
Now, isn't it worth being remembered? Especially when you call her back for a second date? I think so!
Most first dates go awry when there's a lack of genuine connection. Girls usually go home feeling creeped out by the fact that you were willing to bend over backwards (or bend her over your bed) before you even got to know her. She needs to know that she's comfortable being around you. She needs to feel a connection between you and her. She needs to feel understood and appreciated for her qualities and not just her looks.
So, where do you go? What are you going to do?
A great place to start would be a meeting location. Make it light, easy and no pressure on her. Consider meeting in an area filled with a variety of options like a shopping district, a boardwalk or a street festival. You want to select a location with many venues to bounce to in between.
Once out and about, allow yourself a few minutes to screen your date for what she likes and what she's into. Talk to her. Ask her if she heard that annoying song on the radio that everyone loves. Is she brave enough to eat sushi? Give her compliments, only when she deserves them and not because she's hot. This will give you some time to breathe and find genuine common interests with her without propping her up for an awkward interview session. Tell her some interesting stories while drifting from one venue to the next. If she looks bored or uninterested, move her to another venue. Perhaps a different store or area. Use the opportunity of changing venues as a way to keep things moving. You can avoid awkward silence, unusual moments and boring places by having plenty of venue options. Move onto a toy store. Go rent a pair of bikes on the boardwalk and race each other. Check out the ice rink you saw and go skating!Your first date can last anywhere from three to five hours long. The more places you go to, the more you two will experience. The more you experience, the more memorable you'll become in her mind. When she goes home later and chat away with her girlfriends, she won't be talking about how boring you were. She won't be talking about the awful restaurant you picked out or about the movie you saw. She's going to talk about the incredible time she had with you and the endless number of things you two did together.
Now, isn't it worth being remembered? Especially when you call her back for a second date? I think so!
